Welcome to the second part of my three-part blog series (see the first blog ‘here’). I am writing these blogs based on words from my 90-year-old self, which I experienced when climbing ‘Mount Kilimanjaro’. I hope these blogs will allow you to reflect on what quality of life means for you and will motivate you to live it!
The words from my 90-year-old self:
“The door to immortality is only open to those who take the personal responsibility to explore the possibilities”
My mentor told me that you could live a life where you’re reactive, let everyone else or events set the agenda and hope that the right thing one day will happen to you by luck. He told me to go out in the world and create my own luck.
In the book ‘The Richest Man in Babylon’ Arkad stated that in making your own luck, you must be ready to act when an opportunity arises. So in essence you increase the chance of being lucky when you take responsibility to explore possibilities.
In reality, many people have several opportunities presented to them, which they fail to take full advantage of because of procrastination. Procrastination is not always a bad thing, it can be used to digest information, think things through and come up with more creative ways to move forward. However too much of it and you will end up watching life pass you by. It will consume you like a dark warm mist, leaving you feeling comfortable but blind to never see the light. The default will always be what was given to you, never looking for what can be better. Until the day you’re 90 on your deathbed and your biggest regret is not your actions but your inactions and the chances you never took.
I’ve been speaking to a lot of people who feel like they’re not getting enough out of life, especially in their job. I hear things like the company they work for does not pay them enough or there is no progression and they feel stuck. They have a passion for something else, like starting their own business, moving to Africa or travelling. I ask them, “so what”, “now what”?
Then I meet others who are the opposite, I identify them as GoGetters, and they know that the world does not owe them anything and that they must seize every moment with a positive internal response. They are empowered, as they know that they ultimately have the choice on how they react to what happens to them in their lives and it is their responses that determine how things affect them.
What would you do if you got fired from work, for something you did or someone done to you or the environment changed so you got made redundant? In that moment you may feel exposed, awkward, and regretful. Many will feel the same, the difference is how you respond. If you had a GoGetters mind-set you might use the shift in situation to look at the bigger picture of where you are now. The “so what”, would become, “this is an opportunity to take what you’ve learnt and start your own business, move into an industry that will appreciate your genius or sue your employer for wrongful dismissal”.
The “now what” would be the immediate action you will take in the present moment. Be it to wake up earlier in the day to apply for a new job, book time to reflect with mentors on what next or find the details of a good employment lawyer.
“So what” is searching for the possibilities in those moments, “now what” is taking the action towards the opportunity you have spotted.
Do you want to be a procrastinator or GoGetter? Do you want to react to life or respond to it? The former will allow you to use the movement of external events as a source of energy, consciously create expanding life experiences and open the door to immortality.
I challenge you all to dance on the edge of possibilities and develop your opportunity-maker mind-set.
And remember these words:
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